You come home, tired from work, and as soon as you open the door, the drama hits you in the face. Either your boyfriend/girlfriend is throwing a tantrum which ends up in a full-out fight for hours or your boss has a love/hate relationship with you and gives you so many responsibilities that you end up working late in the night. Maybe it is simply your parents who keep forcing you to take the job, partner or university you don’t really want.
Whatever it may be, our lives are out of control when we experience drama. But there is a way we can solve this.
The sentence is said by Script in one of their songs. What does it mean? Most of the drama happens in our lives because we don’t stand our grounds. We let our attitudes and behaviors become shaped by other people’s agenda. What happens when your loved one throws a tantrum at you when it’s not your fault? If you budge and start apologizing for something you didn’t do, it will always happen.
When you stand your ground, you engage in a tough conversation. And our lives are marked by the number of tough conversations we are willing to have. Yeah, it’s easier to just keep your mouth shut and let the tantrum go away by itself, but that way, you create a short-term advantage, but a long-term disadvantage because you just postpone the problem which will just keep popping up.
To solve this, you need to be willing to stand your ground. With this attitude, you kill the monster while it’s still young. If you let it grow, it will spiral out of control. This means hitting the drama in the cause, not the effect. See what is behind the tantrum of your girlfriend/boyfriend, understand why your parents want you to get this kind of education and talk openly with your boss about the tasks. It isn’t easy, but it’s worth it in the long-term.
“Life is 10% what you experience and 90% how you respond to it.” – Charles R. Swindoll
You are the average of 5 people you hang out with the most,said famously by Jim Rohn and it seems to be an axiom proven over and over again. Did you notice how some people create drama in their lives even when there is no reason behind it? There is always someone who screws them up somehow, always someone who talks bad behind their back and always someone who needs to get what they deserve.
No matter how much you try to help them, there always seems to be drama which occupies their time, focus, and energy. At this moment, you need to cut these people loose. They are simply not worth it. If you stay long enough, they will just drag you into their drama. With that, you will also start living it, which will sap your time, focus, and energy.
If your working environment is toxic, just quit because it’s not worth it. You will find another job even in this day’s economy. As Jim Collins said in Good to Great “If you come home and talk about the bad employee who just saps your energy, it is time to fire him.” Use the same rule for the working environment.
Don’t limit yourself only to the working environment, look at your relationships with friends and loved ones as well. If it won’t change, you know what to do. Short-term pain for the long-term gain!
“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.”- Arthur Ashe
This effect tells us that even though we are the center of our universe, we are not the center of everyone else’s universe. We tend to think that everyone else focuses on us and marks every single step we take, but in reality, people most often don’t care about us.
If you want to kill drama from your life, start by understanding that you don’t matter as much as you think. This will prevent you from escalating drama in your life. You’ve probably had the situation where a friend stood you up for a drink or something similar. They probably forgot or had something urgent to deal with. They didn’t stand you up to humiliate you or to make you nervous and anxious.
There is no hidden agenda to destroy you in any way. People don’t really care that much about you and as soon as you internalize that, you will be free. You will forgive and realize that the world doesn’t revolve around you. Did someone postpone a meeting with you? They are not trying to screw you over. Someone didn’t return you the book they borrowed? They probably forgot.
This will give you freedom and it will kill drama in your life. You will feel much more alive because you won’t be using your time, focus, and energy on drama. In turn, that will free up your time to create something valuable and use your time, focus and energy on something great, something people will value, use or read.
If you’ve managed to remove the drama from your life, spread the word about it. There are people struggling with these situations in their lives, and you can show them that life can be simple and great, but only if they remove drama from it. So share this article with your friends who could use it. Trust me, it will help them.
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A few days ago VRFocus reported on CloudGate Studio announcing that its Jurassic Park inspired virtual reality (VR) title Island 359 would be leaving Early Access after almost two years. With the launch only a couple of days away, VRFocus has a few more screenshots to whet your appetite for the dino hunting experience.
If you’ve not heard of Island 359 before then what have you been doing? Set to be one of the biggest virtual reality (VR) releases of the year, the videogame puts you on a massive six square mile island, filled with jungle and most importantly dinosaurs, from little compies to giant Allosaurs and the always deadly raptors.
There are three modes to play through, Mercenary, Arcade, and the all new Survival Mode. Mercenary mode is all about cash, getting as many kills as possible then returning back to base for your payday. The longer you stay out the more cash you’ll earn, and the greater chance you’ll be killed before making it back. While Arcade is all about running around having fun on the hunt, Survival will be where the true hardcore reside. Here you’ll be given minimal resources to start with, having to scavenge for food and crafting materials to stay alive for as long as possible.
As you can see from the new screenshots, CloudGate Studio has created a rich and vibrant land for you to explore. From high mountain peaks and dense jungle, to open plains and winding rivers, it’s everything you’d expect from an uninhabited island. That is apart from the dinosaurs, who want to eat you, apart from the herbivores, alas they still want to kill you.
Island 359 will launch out of Early Access on Steam, Humble, and Oculus Home 26th February, 2018 for $24.99, with a 20 percent launch sale reducing down to $19.99 for a limited time. For any further updates or announcements form CloudGate Studio, keep reading VRFocus.
No matter how far mankind evolves, we will never be a match for Mother Nature’s tumultuous power. She can reclaim even our greatest creations in the blink of an eye.
And according to photographer Vladimir Migutin, no place better illustrates her power to remodel our world than the Chernobyl Exclusion Zone.
Armed with a full spectrum camera and a 590nm infrared filter from Kolari Vision, Migutin visited the 1000-square-mile stretch of forsaken land to capture Mother Nature at work. The nuclear catastrophe forced humans to move on, but plant and animal life have redoubled their efforts, transformed the wasteland to a lush landscape.
…it felt like I was in a “kind of” paradise on a different planet.
Thirty years after the fallout, while men still stay away, the
forests, the animals, the plants, everything is thriving, revived by
"It’s pretty hard to describe the overall atmosphere I experienced during this trip," Migutin says of the two-day excursion. "Despite the events of 1986, the ruins, and the rust, I didn’t have grim feelings while traveling there. On the contrary, it felt like I was in a “kind of” paradise on a different planet.
"Thirty years after the fallout, while men still stay away, the forests, the animals, the plants, everything is thriving, revived by nature."
Discover more of Migutin’s fascinating work through Instagram here.
Via Kolari Vision
Sometimes there’s nothing cuter than seeing a smiling dog photo.
And if you’re having a bad day, these snapshots are sure to cheer you up.
We’re not sure how these pup’s owners got the shots, or how it is that they look so human, but we love the series none-the-less. More than likely, the trick to capturing a pup’s smile is simply waiting for that million dollar moment and being fast with the camera.
Of course, giving your pup something to smile about is a crucial ingredient.
Our favorite shot from the series? That last one with the birthday cake is gold. Which one is your favorite?
Via Sad And Useless
Stefano Cerio has a thing for theme parks, cruise ships, and holiday resorts. Only, he doesn’t visit them for the same reasons most people do.
Cerio isn’t looking for a good time. Instead, he’s on the prowl for shots of the world’s most dismal holiday attractions. And in this series, he tackles the gray world of deserted Chinese theme parks.
"When there’s a blue sky, I can’t take a picture,” the Italian photographer says. “Otherwise it might look like a holiday brochure.”
When there’s a blue sky, I can’t take a picture. Otherwise it might
look like a holiday brochure.
Lucky for Cerio, he doesn’t have to actually wait for a cloudy day. Most days end up being gray due to the smog.
“If there is a political element, this is where it seeps in,” Cerio says. “My images of Macau, one of the only places in China where gambling is legal, show just how different it is from Las Vegas. Instead of bright lights, it is foggy, with empty lagoons.”
I like to take photos of the people that are not there; I call them
“portraits of the absence”
For Cerio, capturing the emptiness of the parks is crucial to capturing the portrait of the places he visits:
"I like to take photos of the people that are not there; I call them “portraits of the absence”. I think there is a sort of reflection when all is empty, particularly in places where, a few hours before, there were millions of people."
In addition to his China Fun collection, Cerio has captured moody scenes of ski slopes at night, empty playgrounds after dark, cruise ships, and water parks in winter.
What can we say? He seems to have a thing for depressing destinations. We just wish Banksy’s Dismaland was still around. We know that’d be right up Cerio’s alley.
In case you didn’t know, "sexy daikon" radishes do extremely well on Japanese social media.
Want a little more attention? Nab one of these shapely veggies and snap a pic of it lying coyly on your couch. Those smooth, crossed legs will be earning you new follower in no time!
No joke. "Sexy Daikon" is a hashtag and it definitely went viral. So viral, in fact, that Japanese retailer Felissimo is now manufacturing a Sexy Diakon Doll. And it perfectly captures that sly, sultry stare that we can’t help but be seduced by.
Choose between the big or little daikon, depending on your body type and cuddling style. This little guy is about to become your best friend, and we promise he’ll never dump you on Valentines Day. Nope, not a chance.
When the project is emotional, or urgent, or loaded with resonance, it’s easy to dispense with rigor. It is, after all, an emergency. No time for the process, for doing the hard part first, seeking best practices, or reverse engineering toward the desired result…
Of course, the opposite is true. If it’s worth getting into a swizzle about, it’s worth doing properly.
Do the math, do the reading, do the budget. Do it right.